One month into 2011, what question(s) are you living?
Are there any prompts/questions that arose during #reverb10 that are still resonating with your life?
Are you living new questions?
When things – life, work, my relationship, a friendship – would get tough or hit a rough spot, the old me would invariably ask, “Why me?” I would, more often than not, place the blame elsewhere. Anywhere else, in fact, but on myself.
I’ve grown. I don’t handle things perfectly now, and I still find myself starting down the “Why me?” road from time to time, but recent life experiences have taught me that it’s not so much about the why, but about the how and the what.
How does it make you feel? What are you going to do about it?
I used to spend so much time dwelling on the wrong questions. How did I get here? What could I have done differently? Why me?
I lived in the past. To a certain point, it’s good to look back and realize what decisions and turns you took brought you to your current state of being, but I almost always took it too far. I dwelled. Instead of trying to figure out what to do next, I would get stuck on what previously happened.
It was counterproductive. It was stressful and took me down an ugly path.
So now, instead of playing the blame game and pointing fingers, I try to take responsibility and look for a way out.
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