I’ve reached a point in my life where I am completely comfortable and at peace with who I am. There are areas in which I could improve (house-cleaning and accounting, for example), but the fact that I’m not great at those things doesn’t make me less of a person.
It’s taken me 26+ years to get here, but here I am.
I am a mother. I am a parent. But I am also a daughter, sister, friend.
And I deserve an afternoon getting a pedicure or a weekend in Vegas as much as my husband deserves a day out fishing or a weekend hunting trip. Because work is stressful, and being a parent is tiresome. And we are, after all, still people.
It’s come to my attention that some very specific people in my life apparently disagree with some of the choices I’ve made as a wife and mother. I say apparently because they don’t express these opinions to me, just to other people who respect me enough to be honest. I have a lot of things I could say in response, many of those things being not so nice… so I won’t say them, not here.
But I do want to say that becoming a parent doesn’t mean we, as humans, have to or should give up the rest of who we are. Like I said, we’re still people. We still have likes and interests and hobbies and feelings, and it would be a disservice to our children to let go of everything else that made us who we are. Because who we are is directly related to the kind of parents we are.
And if I’m the kind of mom who can let loose and have some fun when she knows her child is at home in caring, responsible and capable hands, and who, by the way, doesn’t let her child see her intoxicated, and who misses her child and loves her child with every fiber of her being, then you know what? I am.
And if you are the kind of person who likes to throw around behind-my-back judgment and (often harsh) criticism, and even more often without knowing the full story, without knowing the facts, and without talking to me about it, then… well, then I guess you are.
You be you. I’ll be me.
But I’m the kind of person who doesn’t need or want, and who won’t allow that in my life.
So, there’s that.